Relationship Room

Just recently, I felt ready to experience change in a particular area of my life but I needed an opportunity to "appear" in order for this change to happen. Because this change would affect so many people, I had to strategically communicate my intent. Next, I had to talk to a few key people that would assist me in this area. I wasn't sure who to talk to and I didn't want to talk to the wrong people so I decided to be still and wait for a divine connection. I had a particular person in mind to talk to about this. I knew that if anyone could assist me, he could and he would. I was a bit reluctant at approaching him due to his busy schedule so I continued to be still and wait.

In the meantime, I cleared out space in every area of my life to make room for this big change. I started with my physical environment. I went through all of my closets and donated every piece of clothing/shoes I would never be caught dead in again to charity. Then I went through my entire home and got rid of twenty-five items that were useless and simply taking up space. I buffed up my entire home making sure that it provided what I needed to be at my best. I took one last look around to make sure that everything remaining added value to my life. From there, I looked at my personal life/relationships.

There were people in my life that drained me of my energy and so they had to go. As I elevated my standards and set some clear boundaries, these people literally vanished from my life without me ever having to say a word. This made room for some wonderful people to come into my life and provide me with the support I need emotionally while motivating me to be my very best. Next I took a look at my finances. This move could be costly so I wanted to make sure that I was prepared. And lastly, I looked at my physical being to make sure that I was feeling great and looking great. I wasn't pleased with my hair so I told my stylist to get rid of every unhealthy strand. Three inches later I was a happy woman.

After all of this preparation, which I thoroughly enjoyed, I was ready for the opportunity to come that would facilitate this change and there it came instantaneously. Oprah says it quite often and I totally agree with her: Preparation + Opportunity = Success. The gentleman that I wanted to call called me with the opportunity that would make this change possible. He wanted to sit down and talk with me face to face about this opportunity so he flew me out to his neck of the woods and took care of all of my accommodations. I needed to be in his neck of the woods to attend my girlfriend's baby shower that same weekend. His call couldn't have come at a more opportune time.

How do you make room for a new relationship?

Think of your last 2 or more intimate relationships.

1. Write out in detail all of the positives of this relationship. What worked for you? How did you grow in the relationship? What did you value about each person? What did you learn about life from the relationship? How are you better because of the relationship?

2. Write out in detail all of the negatives of this relationship. What didn't work for you? Should the relationship have ended sooner? Why did you stay? Did you make a wrong choice from the beginning?

3. Write out why the relationship ended? Did you end the relationship? Did the other person end the relationship? Was it a mutual parting of ways?

If you want to attract more into your life, make room for more to come in by doing what I did with my hair. Cut away all of the unhealthy parts so that your life can be healthy, free-flowing and beautiful.

Something to think about...

Coach Yvonne Chase

The Single Woman's Cheerleader

http://www.availableandhappy.com

coachyvonne@availableandhappy.com

877-7-REL ATE (773-5283)

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